Why do you guys do this?

Why not? Last time I checked this was the United States of America!

My interest is extremely discreet… Is my participation secret? I can’t be outed.

Violating our rules around discretion are one of the few immediate, permanent ban offenses. We take privacy seriously.

Review our Code of Conduct here.

Full disclosure: the experience is not totally anonymous. The River Street Club will check your ID at the door to ensure you are of proper age. Your payment info is also handled by River Street Club at our monthly meets.

And of course, there is the possibility you could be seen entering the club, or see an acquaintance inside, or that a passerby could see your car parked nearby and make inferences.

These are external factors beyond our control, intrinsic to any experience one’s trying to keep secret. If factors like these loom large in your mind, consider whether this experience is right for you.

Among our membership, we demand discretion; what happens here, who you see here, stays here.

We ask that members go by a name they’re comfortable with—whether it’s your real name, a pseudonym, an alter-ego, or a username.

If I go, do I need to participate?

Nope! You’re welcome to just sit and watch.

You do not need to masturbate, touch anyone else, or let someone else touch you to participate in a meet.

Side note: never let anyone force you to do something with your body you’re not comfortable with.

Wristbands are available — a red wristband is a consent shortcut within our space, indicating to others to NOT touch your body. However, use your voice, too—your boundaries are your responsibility.

How many other guys typically show up?

We’re new and not a huge group yet, but we are consistent with monthly meets and have been growing over time. Come join our numbers!

Do you take over the whole River Street Club during your meets?

No.

We utilize the lounge space on the second floor for meets. Our rules only apply within our designated space.

The clubs many amenities and private rooms are still available to both regular River Street Club patrons and our members alike.

We do ask that participants arrive within half an hour of the start time to encourage cohesion.

Is it okay that I’m not gay? Is it okay that I’m trans? Is it okay that I can’t get hard, or that my body looks like x, y, z?

Come as you are (pun intended)!

Desiring this experience does not dictate your sexuality or label. We’re just having fun, together.

Women are not allowed into the River Street Club. If you identify with masculine pronouns, you are welcome—transgender, non-binary, cisgender, all good.

This is a mens’ group, and every man’s body is different. Your weight, your penis, that scar or other thing you’re conscious about… bring it with you, wear it with pride, and enjoy some penis play.

The only thing we ask is that if you are feeling ill in any way at all, please skip the meet and come to the next one! That includes cold sores, herpes outbreaks, common cold, etc.

Review our Code of Conduct here.

Is this safe?

If you’re giving or receiving a handjob, you are engaging in safer sex. No sexual contact is completely without risk.

Consult reputable sources for more information and make your own determination regarding what level of risk is right for you and/or your partner(s).

Further reading: STD Center NY - 7 STDs You Might Get from Hand Jobs: Giving or Receiving