CODE OF CONDUCT

1) JO ONLY

Sexual activity at Jacks Capital Region, NY (Jacks-CRNY) events is strictly limited to masturbation and mutual masturbation.

Oral and anal sex are never permitted at any Jacks-CRNY event. Nothing goes inside anybody’s anything.

2) ADULT MEN ONLY

To qualify for membership, prospective members must be men, 18 years of age and older. This includes both cisgender and trans-masculine adults, as well as male-presenting non-binary adults.

Individuals who identify as women are disqualified from membership.

3) PERMITTED PLAY (by mutual consent)

  • Self-masturbation and mutual masturbation

  • Erotic and friendly touch

  • Showing-off and watching (no touch)

  • Parallel penis-to-penis masturbation (“C2C”)

  • Frottage/Frot (rubbing bodies together)

  • Oral contact above the waist (kissing, nipple nibbling, armpit licking, etc.)

4) PROHIBITED PLAY

  • No touching without consent

  • No anal contact (never even touch any butthole, including your own)

  • No oral contact below the waist (no lips below the hips)

  • No insertion (nothing goes inside anybody’s anything)

  • No docking (foreskin sharing)

  • No masturbation sleeves (e.g., Fleshjack or similar toys)

5) NUDITY

The cultural norm is full nudity but minimum participation is stripping to a single article of clothing, typically underwear, a jock, or T-shirt.

Hats, caps, and fetish wear are permitted in all events, and some themes will invite specific clothing.

Always use footwear and never wear anything that might tear or cut skin.

6) EJACULATION

  • Warn verbally before ejaculating. Don’t just breathe heavily. Use your words.

  • Ejaculate on yourself, your towel, or a covered surface.

  • Ejaculate on others ONLY with explicit, mutual consent.

  • Always thoroughly wipe up semen from the floor.

  • Never ejaculate on anyone’s face or anus.

  • No semen ingestion.

7) EXPLICIT CONSENT & MUTUAL RESPECT

Consent is required before touching another member. Remember: every person owns and is in charge of their body.

Always ask before touching someone who hasn’t given consent.

Be prepared to say “no” and always take “no” for an answer. Never press the issue.

We treat each other with mutual respect and human dignity, like brothers.

8) DISCRETION & CONFIDENTIALITY

Never, at any time, disclose any member’s identity to anyone, inside the club or out. Ever.

All members have their ID’s checked upon entrance and thus, this experience is not fully anonymous. You are welcome to go by a pseudonym, alt, or username when interacting with club members.

What you do here, who you see here, stays here.

Revealing any member’s identity or personal details is grounds for permanent termination of membership.

9) MEMBER HEALTH

Never attend a Jacks-CRNY event if you have or suspect that you may have any disease that you could spread to others in the course of an event.

This includes all respiratory infections, herpes outbreaks and staph infections.

HIV is not communicable in the context of club activities. HIV-positive men are welcome to join and participate in events in accordance with our rules. There is no evidence of transmission of HIV via mutual masturbation.

Jacks-CRNY encourages all members to be fully vaccinated against all communicable diseases.

10) NO ALCOHOL OR DRUGS

All group masturbation events hosted by Jacks-CRNY are designated alcohol- and drug-free. Recreational drugs and alcohol are not permitted at Jacks-CRNY meets (note that this applies to meets but not social events).

Do not arrive at meets intoxicated. Intoxicated members will not be admitted or may be ejected from events.

Problem behavior may result in termination of membership.

“Poppers” are not permitted.

11) PERSONAL HYGIENE

Your body and hands should be clean when you attend a Jacks-CRNY event, with teeth brushed and fingernails trimmed short and smooth. Take care of bad breath and excessive body odor before entering the play space.

The River Street Club has showers and handwashing stations, and provides mouthwash and soap.

Start every event in the restroom to wash your hands and use mouthwash, whether you think you need it or not.

Do not wear any fragrance to Jacks-CRNY events.

12) TALKING

Unrelated chatter is discouraged during events. Quiet talk is okay, and hot talk is welcome at any volume. “Conversation” is another matter. Be friendly and sociable, but don’t distract others in the playspace. If you’re asked to lower your voice, do so.

You are welcome to talk to fellow members about sex play that is not permitted in Jacks-CRNY events. For example, while oral and anal sex are never permitted in the club, you can talk about it during the event as long as your fellow members don’t mind. Be yourself.

13) CONSENT WRISTBANDS

Red and green silicone wristbands are offered at Jacks-CRNY events as an optional “consent shortcut” for any member to use, if he so chooses. 

  • A RED wristband means “don’t touch my penis.” 

  • A GREEN wristband means, “anyone may touch my penis without asking first.”

  • No wristband means ASK (see rule 7). 

Wristbands must be 100% honored by every member at all times during every Jacks-CRNY event. Never rely on wristbands alone! Use your words to say “yes” or “no” if and when you need to.

Your boundaries are your responsibility!